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I started this self-esteem blog to make women of color feel better about themselves. Too many of us settle for less because we don't think we can have it all. I hope these blog posts will help you realize you can have it all and so much more.
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I originally wasn’t going to write this post, but I saw too many girls on my blog dashboard sad today.
My favorite version of the story of St. Valentine is about a priest. When Cladius II of Rome declared it illegal to marry because he found unmarried men made better soldiers, Valentine performed marriages for young lovers in secret. He was executed for his actions.
Valentine’s Day has never really been just about love to me; more about the courage to love. Love is the most beautiful thing in the world, but also the hardest thing to truly do, especially when we’ve forgotten that this day isn’t about flowers or candy. It’s about a man who died giving people who had the courage to love a chance to make the ultimate commitment.
If you’re single, this should be a day to courageously love yourself more. Be your own Valentine. The biggest step to learning who you are is probably being completely alone with yourself sans Twitter, Facebook or whatever else you use to connect with other people and to avoid connecting with yourself. Snuggle up with yourself on the coach and watch bad romantic comedies. Go buy yourself balloons and candy. Make this day about you and not about your single status. Maybe you’re supposed to be alone right now, so you can become a better version of yourself for the next person you’re with.
If you’re in a relationship or dating, you can courageously delve into that love. Whether you still love your significant other on a friendly level or are more serious. It takes a lot of courage to let someone know you want to be with them because there’s always a chance of rejection, which, let’s face it, doesn’t feel lovely at all. Don’t be afraid of putting yourself out there and to knock down all of your walls if you want. Instead of always worrying about the future, courageously take on the present with open arms. If you’re happy in the moment, nothing else really matters.
Don’t be sad. Don’t be skeptical. Don’t be angry. Just be courageous.
If it makes you feel any better, you’re all my Valentines.
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